Wednesday, February 26, 2014

The countdown begins!!

 Eighteen and half years ago Mike & I had our first born SON! It's Hard to believe that he will be graduating this upcoming May!!!
 



The planning has begun for Kirks CELEBRATION!!!
*Save the Date has been SENT...IN case you missed it on FACE BOOK...
 May 18th @ 2:00 p.m.   MARK YOUR CALENDARS!!
*The Venue has been reserved... Kirk's commencement & Open house will be at
Camp Rivercrest 2840 County Rd 13 Fremont NE 68025
*invitations have been ordered.... Please inbox me your address if you would like an invite?
*Diploma has been ordered
*Menu has been started
*Cake has been ordered
*Decorations are in progress
I feel as if I have made great progress towards this exciting milestone!! As we finish out the last nine weeks of Kirks High School years I am reminded of a time not that long ago when I, myself was to walk down the isle. The year had been long and tough but I had endured the race. I didn't know what my future held except that I wanted to married and continue raising my son!! Just as I didn't know my future plans at that moment in time, neither does Kirk at this point.  We are not forcing him to go to college as we do not believe this path is for everyone.  We are highly encouraging him to stay motivated and to seek God's will for his LIFE! He currently his working at Pizza Hut and will continue his job at Camp this upcoming summer! He does have some thoughts on his future.. but ONLY TIME WILL TELL..
 
 
 
 
**Although I am sure he would like to see everyone who has made an impact in his life, I know this may not be possible for some.  If you can not attend the commencement or open house for KIRK but would like to send a card, YOU may mail it to our HOME ADDRESS.  I ask that all cards include a piece of advice, and/or words of
                                                  encouragement!!
 
Hope to see you ALL in May!!
 
 



 

Saturday, February 22, 2014

There is NO GREATER... than GOD!!




 
This week has been a huge struggle for me; I am overwhelmed, depleted and exhausted as I have been dealing with a great deal of health issues. Not only am I dealing with pain in my back it has now slipped into my tailbone.. Oh! the excruciating pain, and the feeling of not being able to get off a chair once sitting.... But my upper back is over compensating for the lower back.  My shoulder blades, shoulders and NECK creates a great deal of agony. (NOT to mention our bed is 12 years old, so I think we NEED a NEW one...)  And now... the tension and pain is in my Jaw.... AND... my blood pressure has now become an issue.  
Several years ago I had TMJ to which my jaw locked for FOUR days... I am experiencing the same pain, swelling and tightness.  I keep trying to prevent my jaw from shutting down, or tightening. The other night I was in so much pain I couldn't sleep..
When experiencing such pain it is simple for me to fall into the self-pity trap! But in the midst of all this turmoil and trouble I refuse to be defeated!
Psalms 103: 1-5
"Praise the Lord, my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name.. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits"
*Forgives all my sins
*Heals all my diseases
*Redeems my life from the pit
*crowns me with love and compassion
*satisfies my desires with good things
*renews my youth like the eagle's
Redeems my life from the pit.. is the one I am trying to focus on... "The PIT of self-pity...  As this is an ongoing battle I am trying to remember who God is, Thank HIM for what he has already done, and what he IS GOING to do!!
This was the devotion in "A Confident Heart" Devotional by Renee Swope today!! 
My circumstances may or may not change, but my perspective can... I need to redirect my thoughts and focus on Gods' faithfulness to walk by my side and navigate my heart through the THIS VALLEY of my LIFE!!!
And in the devotion of "JESUS IS CALLING"
"Be on Guard against the pit of self-pity.  When you are weary or unwell, this demonic trap is the greatest danger you face. There are several ways to protect yourself from self-pity.  When you are occupied with praising and thanking ME (JESUS) it is impossible to feel sorry for yourself. Also, the closer you live to ME(JESUS) the more distance there is between you and the pit. Live in the Light of MY PRESENCE by fixing your eyes on ME.  Then you will be able to run with endurance the race that is set before you, without stumbling, or falling!!!! "
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Desperation Band "STRONG GOD"
 
Father to the fatherless
Defender of the weak
Freedom for the prisoner
We sing

This is God in His holy place
This is God clothed in love and strength

Sing out, lift your voice and cry out
Awesome is our strong God, mighty is our God

With us in the wilderness
Faithful to provide
Every breath and every step
We see

This is God in His holy place
This is God clothed in love and strength

Sing out, lift your voice and cry out
Awesome is our strong God, mighty is our God

Sing out, raise your hands and shout out
Awesome is our strong God, mighty is our God

There is no higher, no
There is no greater, no
There is none stronger than our God

Sing out, lift your voice and cry out
Awesome is our strong God, mighty is our God

Sing out, raise your hands and shout out
Awesome is our strong God, mighty is our God

Mighty is our God
Mighty is our God
 
 
 
 

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Strength Finder


Mike and I decided to take the Strength Finder test & a personality temperament tests for FUN last night!!! This really helps us focus and keep in perspective that we all have different personalities and strengths... When we are aware of others around us we are better equipped to handle their differences!!!  If you haven't done this yet, I would highly recommend it!



The Clifton Strengths Finder

As you may know, the Clifton StrengthsFinder measures the presence of talent in 34 categories called "themes." These themes were determined by Gallup as those that most consistently predict outstanding performance. The greater the presence of a theme of talent within a person, the more likely that person is to spontaneously exhibit those talents in day-to-day behaviors. Focusing on naturally powerful talents helps people use them as the foundation of strengths and enjoy personal, academic, and career success through consistent, near-perfect performance.

Below are my top five themes of talent, ranked in the order revealed by my responses to the Clifton Strengths Finder.

 How well do you think these themes describe me?
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Woo
People who are especially talented in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with another person.


Positivity
People who are especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.


Communication
People who are especially talented in the Communication theme generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and presenters.


Empathy
People who are especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others’ lives or others’ situations.


Developer
People who are especially talented in the Developer theme recognize and cultivate the potential in others. They spot the signs of each small improvement and derive satisfaction from these improvements.


"WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO". By Tim Lahaye 

WHAT'S MY PERSONALITY TEMPERAMENT?
Each Section represents one of four Temperaments:
SECTION 1:
Sanguine Temperament (fun-loving extrovert; outgoing; very social; "the life of the party") - EXTROVERT
SECTION 2:
Choleric Temperament (focused; extrovert; goal oriented; "the achiever") - EXTROVERT
SECTION 3:
Melancholy Temperament (detailed; introspective; artistic; "the naturally gifted") - INTROVERT
SECTION 4:
Phlegmatic Temperament (easy going; stable; consistent; "the loyal friend") - INTROVERT
 
- See more at: http://www.goingthedistance.org/pages.asp?pageid=18151#sthash.IYA9uLJ2.dpuf



TEMPERAMENT BLEND

The SanChlor The strongest extrovert of all the blends of temperaments will be the SanChlor, for the two temperaments that make up his nature are both extroverted. The happy charisma of the sanguine makes him a people-oriented, enthusiastic, salesman type; but the choleric side of his nature will provide him with the necessary resolution and character traits that will fashion a somewhat more organized and productive individual than if he were pure sanguine. Almost any people-oriented field is open to him, but to sustain his interest it must offer variety, activity, and excitement. The potential weaknesses of a SanChlor are usually apparent to everyone because he is such an external person. He customarily talks too much, thus exposing himself and his weaknesses for all to see. He is highly opinionated. Consequently, he expresses himself loudly even before he knows all the facts. To be honest, no one has more mouth trouble! If he is the life of the party, he is lovable; but if he feels threatened or insecure, he can become obnoxious. His leading emotional problem will be anger, which can catapult him into action at the slightest provocation. Since he combines the easy forgetfulness of the sanguine and the stubborn casuistry of the choleric, he many not have a very active conscience. Consequently, he tends to justify his actions. This man, like any other temperament, needs to be filled daily with the Holy Spirit and the Word of God. Simon Peter, the self-appointed leader of the twelve apostles, is a classic example of a New Testament Sandlot. He obviously had mouth trouble, demonstrating this repeatedly by speaking up before anyone else could. He talked more in the Gospels than all the others put together - and most of what he said was wrong. He was egotistical, weak-willed, and carnal throughout the Gospels. In Acts, however, he was a remarkably transformed man - resolute, effective, and productive. What made the difference? He was filled with the Spirit. -


Mike's RESULTS:

His FIVE top Strengths:
Achiever
Strategic
Learner
Context
Connectedness

Personality temperament

The ChlorMel
 

The choleric/melancholy is an extremely industrious and capable person. The optimism and practicality of the choleric overcome the tendency toward moodiness of the melancholy, making the ChlorMel both goal-oriented and detailed. Such a person usually does well in school, possesses a quick, analytical mind, and yet is decisive. He develops into a thorough leader, the kind whom one can always count on to do an extraordinary job. Never take him on in a debate unless you are assured of your facts, for he will make mincemeat of you, combining verbal aggressiveness and attention to detail. This man is extremely competitive and forceful in all that he does. He is a dogged researcher and is usually successful, no matter what kind of business he pursues. This temperament probably makes the best natural leader. General George S. Patton, the great commander of the U.S. Third Army in World War II who drove the German forces back to Berlin, was probably a ChlorMel.
Equally as great as his strengths, are his weaknesses. He is apt to be autocratic, a dictator type who inspires admiration and hate simultaneously. He is usually a quick-witted talker whose sarcasm can devastate others. He is a natural-born crusader whose work habits are irregular and long. A ChlorMel harbors considerable hostility and resentment, and unless he enjoys a good love relationship with his parents, he will find interpersonal relationships difficult, particularly with his family. No man is more apt to be an overly strict disciplinarian than the ChlorMel father. He combines the hard-to-please tendency of the choleric and the perfectionism of the melancholy. When controlled by the Holy Spirit, however, his entire emotional life is transformed and he makes an outstanding Christian.
There is little doubt in my mind that the Apostle Paul was a ChlorMel. Before his conversion he was hostile and cruel, for the Scripture teaches that he spent his time persecuting and jailing Christians. Even after his conversion, his strong-willed determination turned to unreasonable bullheadedness, as when he went up to Jerusalem against the will and warning of God. His writings and ministry demonstrate the combination of the practical-analytical reasoning and the self-sacrificing but extremely driving nature of a ChlorMel. He is a good example of God's transforming power in the life of a ChlorMel who is completely dedicated to God's will.
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SO YOU SEE OPPOSITES DO ATTRACT!!



Tuesday, February 18, 2014

FAMILY CAMP!!!!



 
 
 
Focus for FAMILY CAMP
~The focus for this year’s family camp is based on the Scripture Romans 12:2
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect”
~We live in a fast paced world where change is inevitable. It’s a fact of life; people change, jobs change, standards change, & surroundings change.  In the ever changing world we live in we have the hope that God will never change; his love for us is the same always and forever.  We want to explore changes in our lives, learn how they affect us, and understand what God’s word says about it; all the while not being conformed to the world but being transformed by the “RENEWing” of our Minds…

 

Join us the MEMORIAL WEEKEND for our
SECOND ANNUAL Family camp!!!  


Memorial Weekend May 23rd-25th, 2014

Fri @ 7:00p.m-Sun @3:00 p.m.

OUR SPEAKER:
 
About Boomer Roland • • • • • • • • • •



Boomer Roland has been serving children, teens and parents for over 20 years.

Drawing on his experience with families he uses his passion for speaking and

encouragement to help equip parents to succeed at life's most important job--

parenting. Boomer has been married to his best friend Angie for over 20 years.

They have two seriously great kids, Kara and Blake.
 

http://parenttheheart.com/seminars/
 
 
 
Highlights Include:
 
*Boomer Roland
*Band
*Workshops hosted by Mark & Deb Bohlmann
*Pool & Snack Shack
*Zip line, Climbing, Wall, Big Swing, Archery, Hay Ride
*Paintball ($15.00/person)
*Family Work Project (optional)
 
$65.00/FAMILY
Plus Meals & Lodging


 
SIGN UP TODAY!!!
 


 
 
 
 

Monday, February 17, 2014

Because you ARE WILLING!!!!!

                                                                
                                                            
I often want to write when things are going great, but then I never make it a priority. It seems as if I am inspired to write after I've been through a trial, struggle, temptation or valley!! This blog is no different. It is about a recent valley that I've been through.  I pray that by sharing with you, It will inspire you as well to rely on the promises of God and the HOPE that he promises!!
                               
                                                       

My husband and I have a passion to help other families remember the importance of family unity.  We do this by opening up our lives to be transparent and authentic. We have been working in ministry now for about three years.  We love what we do most of the times but will loose our focus as we are only human.  Fears and doubts creep up and I begin to wander if what we are doing is even worth it. It is a constant struggle; as much as I would like to be exempt from this battle I can not pick or choose what the Lord will use to help us grow.  Often times the more he invades in our lives the more uncomfortable we become.  He is at constant work within us; changing us, molding us, making our "old creatures" like NEW. Before I realize what is happening often times then not I find myself complaining about the situation I am in.   I quickly become disappointed when I make myself available for others to hear the importance of "BEING STILL" before the LORD.  Then my eyes are opened; I must remove the LOG from my eyes before I can remove the SPECK from some body else! As frustrations begin to build I quickly realize that I am trying to play GOD.  My approach to throw myself and make myself available at the expense of every other schedule BUT MINE, is not what GOD IS CALLING ME TO DO!!! I am merely a tool from him, I am to help plant seeds. Then I am to get out of the way!! BUT.... there is a battle within me that fights..  Am I working hard enough?  I myself struggle with the "BEING STILL" I must be able to mold this, so that I can set myself apart for others to see the importance!  It seems as if the challenge arises repeatedly over the same issues that we struggle with. I know for me my husband and I are constantly being stretched, this includes in our own marriage!
 During the difficult times is when I should fully engage in prayers and communication with my spouse. Busyness and priorities lure around every home life.  We are emerged in a world around us that screams "Instant gratification"  But learning what God wants for our lives is a process. He himself went through a process... He overcame the world!! He did this so that we could overcome the areas in our lives that are a battle for us.
An area that is a battle for me is my marriage. It is most definitely worth fighting for!! When we lose our focus from the love and respect cycle, many other issues result because of it.  We recently just jumped a hurdle in our marriage that the root of the problem was a lack of communication.  This built up anger and resentment, causing a lack of love and respect.  The problem is sometimes its subconsciously that we struggle with these and as a result our own selfish desires control the behaviors and actions!  Mike and I could NOT get passed a certain situation recently.  I never realized that the pain I was experiencing from this was resulting in anger.  Which ultimately led to bitterness and resentment! He was so focused on a completely different issue, which resulted in some poor behaviors in the home.  Neither one of us knew our actions were effecting each other until we went away this weekend to an ART of MARRIAGE RETREAT! 

We truly need to be reminded that we are GOING TO HAVE conflict. I struggle with high expectations that Mike wasn't equipped to handle!  During one of the "project" times we had to pray and write a love letter to our spouses!! The moment was extremely impactful! If we can just remember that we are not out to COMPETE with one another but that we are to COMPLETE each other.  My defense wall had come down, and there I was before my husband and the LORD! The power of prayer is amazing!! It is so easy to point the finger and find fault in others. My focus was on Mike and his anger that I was filled with pain; all the while forgetting the lack of respect that I was showing him!!  It is so refreshing to see that God designed us as special gifts for one another! When we view each other in that manner it allows us to glorify God and not be self glorified!  Creating an environment to where we could face the moments in our relationship that draws us to isolation was beneficial so that forgiveness could be asked. When we took the time to ponder on the things that truly bother us we came to realize that in our conflicts there never comes a resolve. We may talk, or argue over issues so much that we simply just get tired and just "move on"  When I avoid this it leads to "passive anger" as a result I develop a deep rooted pain because my feelings are being invalidated.  When he moves on, he honestly feels that an issue has been resolved!!

A breath of fresh air came from this weekend! I truly love and AM IN LOVE with my HUSBAND!! We are going to go through many trials in our lives, but each hurdle is placed before us to prepare for the next one.  In order to be of help to others, there comes a time when you need to help yourself! I learned that this weekend.  Both Mike and I feel strongly that God's work is just beginning in this ministry that we are in... On the days of doubts; when I ask God why he has called me, when all I feel is weakness and inadequacies... those are the days He whispers ever so gentle and says....

BECAUSE YOU ARE WILLING!!